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misunderstanding

Wed, 11 Nov 2009 02:26:27 GMT

the sweetness of a person
might hurt you
when you thought
it was love.

in-laws relationship

Mon, 09 Nov 2009 00:46:30 GMT

Once upon a time in China, a girl named Li-Li got married & went to live with her husband and mother-in-law.
In a very short time, Li-Li found that she couldn't get along with her mother-in-law at all. Their personalities were very different, and Li-Li was angered by many of her mother-in-law's habits. In addition, she criticized Li-Li constantly.
Days passed, and weeks passed. Li-Li and her mother-in-law never stopped arguing and fighting. But what made the situation even worse was that, according to ancient Chinese tradition, Li-Li had to bow to her mother-in-law and obey her every wish. All the anger and unhappiness in the house was causing Li-Li's poor husband great distress.

Finally, Li-Li could not stand her mother-in-law's bad temper and dictatorship any longer, and she decided to do something about it. Li-Li went to see her father's good friend, Mr. Huang, who sold herbs. She told him the situation and asked if he would give her some poison so that she could solve the problem once and for all.

Mr. Huang thought for awhile, and finally said, "Li-Li, I will help you solve your problem, but you must listen to me and obey what I tell you."

Li-Li said, "Yes, Mr. Huang, I will do whatever you tell me to do."
Mr. Huang went into the back room, and returned in a few minutes with a package of herbs. He told Li-Li, "You can't use a quick-acting poison to get rid of your mother-in-law, because that would cause people to become suspicious. Therefore, I have given you a number of herbs that will slowly build up poison in her body. Every other day prepare some delicious meal and put a little of these herbs in her serving. Now, in order to make sure that nobody suspect you, when she dies, you must be very careful to act very friendly towards her. "Don't argue with her, obey her every wish, and treat her like a queen."
Li-Li was so happy. She thanked Mr. Huang and hurried home to start her plot of murdering her mother-in-law.

Weeks went by, and months went by, and every other day, Li-Li served the specially treated food to her mother-in-law. She remembered what Mr. Huang had said about avoiding suspicion, so she controlled her temper, obeyed her mother-in-law, and treated her like her own mother.

After six months had passed, the whole household had changed. Li-Li had practiced controlling her temper so much that she found that she almost never got mad or upset.. She hadn't had an argument with her mother-in-law in six months because she now seemed much kinder and easier to get along with.

The mother-in-law's attitude toward Li-Li changed, and she began to love Li-Li like her own daughter. She kept telling friends and relatives that Li-Li was the best daughter-in-law one could ever find. Li-Li and her mother-in-law were now treating each other like a real mother and daughter. Li-Li's husband was very happy to see what was happening.

One day, Li-Li came to see Mr. Huang and asked for his help again She said, "Dear Mr. Huang, please help me to keep off the poison from killing my mother-in-law. She's changed into such a nice woman, and I love her like my own mother. I do not want her to die because of the poison I gave her."

Mr. Huang smiled and nodded his head. "Li-Li, there's nothing to worry about. I never gave you any poison. The herbs I gave you were vitamins to improve her health. The only poison was in your mind and your attitude toward her, but that has been all washed away by the love which you gave to her."

HAVE YOU REALIZED that how you treat others is exactly how they will treat you? There is a wise Chinese saying: "The person who loves others will also be loved in return." God might be trying to work in another person's life through you.

one simple thought

Wed, 04 Nov 2009 02:54:38 GMT

Life can be happier and less stressful
if we remember
one simple thought:

We can't have all that
we desire,
but prayers will give us
all that we deserve.

keeping personal information

Mon, 26 Oct 2009 08:11:35 GMT

If other people entrust you with their private stories,
better keep it only to yourself.
Because limitation is an easier task
than to win back trust.

one-liner series 3

Thu, 15 Oct 2009 02:35:55 GMT

Anger doesn't always mean hatred,
it could just be a means of coping up.

one-liner series #2

Mon, 05 Oct 2009 05:02:00 GMT

The second chance means nothing...
if nothing was learned from the first.

one-liner series #1

Fri, 25 Sep 2009 00:32:02 GMT

Silence doesn't always mean "yes",
it may also mean "no" but is better left unsaid.

What makes some people important

Mon, 14 Sep 2009 04:25:50 GMT

...is not just the happiness that you feel
when you laugh with them,
but it's the pain you feel
when you miss them.

- SMS by Ninong Erick C. 14-Sept. 2009

Brother Eraño G. Manalo (Jan. 2, 1925 - Aug. 31, 2009)

Tue, 01 Sep 2009 13:48:29 GMT

while i was driving to work this morning, my wife called through my mobile phone, relaying a news that made me stop thinking about the many things in my mind at that very moment. i also completely turned off the music-cd i was listening to until i get to my workplace. i sent messages to some people about the sad news and at the same time asked them to make a confirmation about it. after just a few minutes, it was confirmed. in my mind flashed back so many things and questions came popping out of my mind on what will be the next turn of events.

i've come to respect highly the leadership of Bro. Eraño G. Manalo, his unwavering labor to lead the church which has not only spread in the Philippines but also in the four corners of the world. through him i've had an inspiration to carry on my duties in the church. i have someone to look up to--- a powerful, yet humble, servant of God.

his life he offered in serving God by looking after the Lord Jesus Christ' flock. the nights he made days in laboring for the church's needs. he edifies, gives advices, has submitted himself to God in order to lead the church into the perfection of their faith.

Bro. Eraño G. Manalo is a leader who's full of power, wisdom, love & humility. he remains an inspiration to every member of the church

while the whole church mourns over the leader's passing, we are very much happy to note that our dear brother has finished his race good. like God's messenger in these last days, his labor shall not be forgotten.

THANK YOU, our beloved Brother ERAÑO G. MANALO. We'll see each other in the Holy City very soon...

Will You Dance With Me?

Mon, 24 Aug 2009 20:32:25 GMT

Too many people put off something that brings them joy just because they haven't thought about it, don't have it on their schedule, didn't know it was coming or are too rigid to depart from their routine.

I got to thinking one day about all those women on the Titanic who passed up dessert at dinner that fateful night in an effort to cut back. From then on, I've tried to be a little more flexible.

How many women out there will eat at home because their husband didn't suggest going out to dinner until after something had been thawed? Does the word 'refrigeration' mean nothing to you?

How often have your kids dropped in to talk and sat in silence while you watched ' Jeopardy ' on television?

I cannot count the times I called my sister and said, 'How about going to lunch in a half hour?' She would gas up and stammer, 'I can't. I have clothes on the line. My hair is dirty. I wish I had known yesterday, I had a late breakfast, It looks like rain.' And my personal favorite: 'It's Monday.' She died a few years ago. We never did have lunch together.

Because we cram so much into their lives, we tend to schedule our headaches. We live on a sparse diet of promises we make to ourselves when all the conditions are perfect!

We'll go back and visit the grandparents when we get Steve toilet-trained. We'll entertain when we replace the living-room carpet... We'll go on a second honeymoon when we get two more kids out of college.

Life has a way of accelerating as we get older. The days get shorter, and the list of promises to ourselves gets longer. One morning, we awaken, and all we have to show for our lives is a litany of 'I'm going to,' 'I plan on,' and 'Someday, when things are settled down a bit.'

When anyone calls my 'seize the moment' friend, she is open to adventure and available for trips. She keeps an open mind on new ideas. Her enthusiasm for life is contagious. You talk with her for five minutes, and you're ready to trade your bad feet for a pair of Roller blades and skip an elevator for a bungee cord..

My lips have not touched ice cream in 10 years. I love ice cream. It's just that I might as well apply it directly to my stomach with a spatula and eliminate the digestive process The other day, I stopped the car and bought a triple-Decker. If my car had hit an iceberg on the way home, I would have died happy.

Now...go on and have a nice day. Do something you WANT to......not something on your SHOULD DO list. If you were going to die soon and had only one phone call you could make, who would you call and what would you say? And why are you waiting?

Make sure you read this to the end; you will understand why I sent this to you.

Have you ever watched kids playing on a merry go round or listened to the rain lapping on the ground? Ever followed a butter fly's erratic flight or gazed at the sun into the fading night? Do you run through each day on the fly? When you ask ' How are you?' Do you hear the reply?

When the day is done, do you lie in your bed with the next hundred chores running through your head? Ever told your child, 'We'll do it tomorrow.' And in your haste, not see his sorrow? Ever lost touch? Let a good friendship die? Just call to say 'Hi?

When you worry and hurry through your day, it is like an unopened gift....Thrown away..... Life is not a race. Take it slower. Hear the music before the song is over.